Affirming and accepting yourself is the key to a positive change in life! 肯定并接受自己，是生活发生积极转变的关键！

 "Now" is always the source of strength

 

All the events you experience in your life are caused by your past thoughts and beliefs.

They are determined by your past thoughts, what you said yesterday, last week, last month, last year, 10 years ago, 20 years ago, 30 years ago, 40 years ago (depending on your age).

 

However, that is your past. It has passed, it is over. What matters is what thoughts, beliefs, and words you choose at this moment, because your current thoughts and language will create your future.

The source of your strength comes from the "now", which is forming the experience of tomorrow, next week, next month, next year, and beyond.

 

You may wish to pay attention to what you are thinking at this moment-is it positive or negative? Do you hope that your current ideal will become a reality in the future and change your life? Then take care of your thoughts!

"Thoughts" can be "changed"

 

No matter what is wrong with oneself, the root of the problem must come from our thinking.

Inferiority is just a reflection of your hate and hatred of yourself. Your thoughts are saying: "I am a terrible person." This thought creates a feeling that makes us lost in this feeling.

However, if you don't have this kind of thinking about yourself, you won't have this feeling. Change the thoughts that hate yourself and this negative emotion will leave you.

 

Don't let the past events affect us, no matter how negative and painful these past events are. The past has passed.

 

The past has no power to defeat us. The "now" life is what we need to grasp, and our power exists at this moment. It is amazing to realize this! We are free now!

 

We did choose our mind

We can choose how to think. Although sometimes we are accustomed to repeating and repeating a thought, and on the surface, it seems that there is no choice, but in fact, this is all we asked for.

We have the ability to choose certain ideas, and we have the ability to reject certain ideas. Don't believe it? Just think about whether we have rejected some positive thoughts and then we can understand. Then we can also reject some negative thoughts. There is no doubt.

 

Everyone I know has suffered from low self-esteem and guilt more or less. How can such a life be happy?

The less low self-esteem and guilt we have, the better our lives will be. This is the case regardless of our standard of living.

"I am not good enough!"

Many people often have such thoughts deep in their hearts-"I am not good enough!"

 

We would say: "I don't do enough" or "I have no value." Are these words like what you said? Do you often say, often hint or experience that you are "not good enough"? But why are you "not good enough"? According to whose standards you are "not good enough"?

 

If you think so often, how can you create a life full of love, happiness, wealth, and health? To some extent, the main beliefs in your subconscious will often conflict with a happy life. You can never put the two together, you don't know when something will go wrong.

Resentment, criticism, guilt, fear

Are the four worst habits in our lives

 

These four bad habits cause major problems in our body and life. These four habits originated from blaming others, but never daring to take responsibility. If we dare to be responsible for everything in our lives, then we will not blame anyone.

Wherever we go at any time is a reflection of our inner thoughts. Others treat us in a certain way, and I am not trying to justify the actions of others, because it is our own belief that attracts others to treat us that way.

 

If you find yourself saying: "Everyone always treats me like this, criticizes me, always treats me like a doormat at the door, abuses me." Then this is your model. There are certain thoughts in your heart that attract others to treat you in that way. When you don't think like that anymore, they will walk away and treat others that way. You no longer attract them.

 

Here are the physical consequences of some patterns:

Long-term resentment can swallow our bodies and cause a disease we call "cancer".

People who use criticism as a daily habit often suffer from arthritis.

People who are guilty always look forward to being punished. Punishment causes pain.

Fear creates tension and can cause hair loss, ulcers and even foot pain.

...

These diseases, as far as my experience is concerned, as long as the patients can resolve their negative thought patterns, the pain can be eliminated, and even cancer can be resolved. This statement sounds untrue, but I am sure it is true.

We can change our attitude towards the past

 

The past has passed, and we can no longer change it. But we can change our view of the past. Because someone hurt us a long time ago, and now punishing ourselves, how stupid it is!

 

I often say to those who have resentment towards others:

"You should start dissolving your resentment now, because it's not too late, it's easy. Don't wait until you are about to be operated on by the doctor, or even before you die. It's too late. Forgive others! You can do it. You can forgive others' faults, and other people can forgive your faults!"

 

If people want to resolve resentment, they must first eliminate fear, because when we are afraid, it is difficult to concentrate our minds. Therefore, we must first resolve our fears and take things calmly, so that we can naturally generate power to help ourselves.

If we do not change and just think that we are a helpless victim, everything will no longer have hope, then even if God cannot help us, we will be harmed by ourselves and suffer even more.

On the contrary, if we wake up, change our past mistakes, resolve all fears and resentments, and have correct ideas, then the support from all directions will make us turn defeat into victory and advance step by step. Only by forgiving others can the unhappy past be resolved.

Willing to forgive others, but also willing to forgive yourself

We may not know how to forgive others and ourselves, or even want to forgive at all, or do not know that we can forgive.

 

In fact, it is necessary to forgive others and forgive yourself. Who is right? Even saints are wrong, let alone ordinary people?

 

Forgiveness is to give people a chance, to give yourself a chance.

"Turning warriors into jade silk" is one of all good things in the world and it is very important.

 

After knowing the importance of "forgiveness", you must be able to implement it.

We can make up our minds and say to someone who has harmed us: "I will forgive you. Although you have been sorry to me in the past, I am determined to forgive you, no longer hold grudges, and let you be free."-This is "Resolve grievance Knot". This sentence is very powerful. You not only liberate others, but also liberate yourself, so that you will no longer be trapped by resentment.

All diseases are caused by intolerance

Whenever we are sick, we need to search silently in our hearts to see who needs to be forgiven.

It says in "A Course in Miracles"

"All diseases come from intolerance"

"Whenever we are sick, we need to search silently in our hearts to see who needs to be forgiven."

I want to add one sentence: The person who is the most difficult to forgive is the person you need to forgive the most.

Tolerance means giving up, letting go, and letting it go. Forgiveness means not doing anything anymore, just discarding the whole thing. All we need to do is to be willing to forgive.

 

We understand our pain very well. However, it is not easy for us to understand that those who are hard to forgive are also in pain. We need to understand that those who are hard to forgive by us have done their best when doing something that is hard for us to forgive. They have exhausted all their understanding, knowledge and learning to make it like that.

The key to the turning point

Start self-approval and self-acceptance immediately

When people come to me with questions, I don’t care what the problem is—a sick body, a poor financial situation, poor relationships, or lost creativity—I only focus on one thing , That is, whether to love yourself.

 

I found that when we truly love, accept ourselves and agree with ourselves as we are, everything in life returns to normal, and small miracles appear everywhere——

Our health is improving;

We have more money;

Our interpersonal relationship becomes more and more harmonious;

We started to express ourselves in a creative way

... ...

All these seem to come to us without deliberately pursuing them.

Love yourself and agree with yourself, which creates a safe space. Trust, value and recognition will work together in your mind to create more friendly interpersonal relationships in your life, leading to better jobs, a better living environment, and even your weight will return to normal. People who cherish themselves and their bodies never abuse themselves or others.

Now immediately start self-approval and self-acceptance,

This is the key to making positive changes in our lives.

Loving yourself, for me, starts with "no longer blaming yourself for anything". Criticism and blame will lock us in and prevent us from changing, while understanding ourselves and treating ourselves well will help us change our past negative reaction patterns.

Remember, you have blamed yourself for many years, this is useless.

Try to appreciate yourself and see what happens.

“当下”永远是力量的源泉

 

你生命中经历的所有事件，都是由你过去的思想和信念造成的。

他们由你过去的想法，你在昨天、上星期、上个月、去年、10年前、20年前、30年前、40年前(这取决于你的年龄)所说的话决定的。

 

然而，那是你的过去。它已经过去了，完毕了。重要的是此时此刻你选择什么思想、选择什么信念、说什么话，因为你现在的思想和语言将创建你的未来。

你的力量的源泉来自“当下”，它正在形成明天的、下星期的、下个月的、明年的以及以后的经历。

 

你不妨注意此时此刻你正在思考什么——它是积极的还是消极的?你是否希望现在的理想将来会成为事实，使你的生活有所改变?那就小心地照顾你的思想吧!

“思想”是可以被“改变”的

 

无论自己出了什么问题，这问题的根本必然来自我们的思想。

自卑仅仅是你讨厌自己、憎恨自己的一种思想的反映。你的这种思想在说：“我是一个糟糕的人。”这种思想制造出一种感受，令我们失落在这种感受中。

可是，如果你没有这种对自己的思想，你就不会有这种感受了。改变讨厌自己的思想，这种负面的情感就会离你而去。

 

别让过去的事影响我们，不论这些过去的事是多么消极和痛苦。过去的已经过去了。

 

过去的事情没有力量战胜我们。“当下”的生活才是我们需要把握的，我们的力量存在于此时此刻。认识到这一点是多么了不起!我们此时此刻便开始自由 了!

 

我们确实选择了我们的思想

要怎样思想，可以由我们加以选择。虽然有时我们会习惯地把一个思想重复又重复，而且表面上看起来，好像没有选择的余地，但事实上，这都是我们自找的。

我们有能力选择某些思想，也有能力拒绝某些思想。不信吗?只要想想我们是否拒绝过一些积极的思想就可以明白了，那么我们也可以拒绝一些消极的思想，这是不用怀疑的。

 

我认识的每一个人，或多或少都遭受过自卑与内疚的痛苦。这样的生命怎么会幸福起来呢?

我们具有的自卑和内疚越少，我们的生活就越好。不管我们处于哪种生活水平，情况都是这样。

“我不够好!”

许多人内心深处常有这样的念头——“我不够好!”

 

我们会这样说：“我做的事不够多”，或者“我没有价值”。这些话像你说的吗?你经常说、经常暗示或经常体验你“不够好”吗?可是你为什么“不够好”?按照谁的标准你“不够好”?

 

如果时常这样想，那么你如何能创造充满爱、快乐、富裕、健康的生活?从某种程度上说，你的潜意识中的主要信念会经常与幸福生活相抵触。你永远无法将二者放在一起，不知什么时候有些东西就会出错。

怨恨、批评、内疚、恐惧

是我们生活中四种最坏的习惯

 

这四种坏习惯造成了我们身体上和生活中的主要问题。这四种习惯起源于喜欢责怪他人，却从不勇于承担责任。如果我们敢于对自己生活中的每一件事负责，那么就不会责怪任何人。

任何时候我们去往哪里都是我们内在思想的反映。别人会以某种方式对待我们，我并不是要为别人的行为开脱，因为正是我们自己的信念吸引别人以那种方式对待我们。

 

如果你发现自己在说：“每个人总是这样对待我，批评我，总是不为我着想，像对待门口的擦鞋垫一样对待我，虐待我。”那么这就是你的模式。你的内心存在某些思想，这些思想吸引别人以那样的行为方式对待你。当你不再那样想了，他们就会走开，以那样的方式去对待别人。你不再吸引他们了。

 

以下是一些模式在身体上造成的后果：

长时间的怨恨会吞噬我们的身体，导致一种我们称之为“癌症”的疾病。

把批评作为日常习惯的人常常会患关节炎。

内疚的人总是期待着被惩罚，惩罚会导致疼痛。

恐惧产生紧张，会导致脱发、溃疡甚至脚痛。

……

这些疾病，就我的经验来说，只要病人能化解他们的负面思想模式，病痛便能消除，连癌症都可以化解。这说法听起来好像不太真实，但我确信这是事实。

我们可以改变对往事的态度

 

过去的事情都已经过去了，我们无法再改变它。但是我们可以改变对往事的看法。因为很久以前有人伤害了我们，而在现在惩罚我们自己，这是多么愚蠢！

 

我时常向那些对别人怀有怨恨心的人说：

“你现在就应该开始化解你的怨恨，因为现在还不迟，还很容易。千万不要等到快要被医生开刀的时候，甚至在临死以前才开始，那便太迟了。宽恕别人吧！你可以做得到的。你能够宽恕别人的过失，别人才可以宽恕你的过失！”

 

人要想化解怨恨心，先要消除恐惧心，因为当我们恐惧的时候，很难把心中的意念集中。所以我们一定要先把恐惧化解，凡事从从容容，自然能够产生力量帮助我们自己。

如果我们不加改变，只一味地以为自己是一个无能为力的受害者，一切事情不会再有希望，那么，即使神也无法帮助我们，我们便被自己所害，更加一落千丈。

反之，如果我们一朝醒悟，痛改前非，化解所有恐惧和怨恨，有正确的思想观念，那么来自四面八方的支持力量，将使我们转败为胜，步步高升。只有宽恕别人，才能把不快的往事化解。

愿意宽恕他人，也愿意宽恕自己

我们可能不知道怎样去宽恕别人和宽恕自己，甚至根本不希望有宽恕，或不知道可以宽恕。

 

事实上，宽恕他人，宽恕自己，都是必须的。人谁无错？连圣人都有错，何况普通人？

 

宽恕就是给人机会，给自己机会。

“化干戈为玉帛”是世界上所有的好事之一，非常重要。

 

在知道“宽恕”的重要后，便要能够去实行。

我们可以下定决心，对一个害过我们的人说：“我将宽恕你，虽然你过去对不起我，但我决心宽恕你，不再记恨，让你自由 自在。”——这就是“解怨解结”。这句话很有份量，你不单解放了他人，也解放了自己，不会再被怨恨所困。

所有疾病都是不宽容导致的

每当我们生病时，我们需要在心里默默地搜寻一下，看看谁需要被宽恕。

《奇迹课程》中说

“所有疾病都来源于不宽容”

“每当我们生病时，我们需要在心里默默地搜寻一下，看看谁需要被宽恕。” 

我想加上一句：那个最难让你宽恕的人，正是你最需要宽恕的人。

宽容意味着放弃、放手，让它离开。宽恕意味着不再去做什么，把整个事情丢弃就是了。我们需要做的所有事情就是愿意宽恕。

 

我们非常理解自己的伤痛。可是，我们很不容易理解那些很难被我们宽恕的人也处于伤痛之中。我们需要理解，那些难以被我们宽恕的人，在做那件难以被我们宽恕的事时，已经尽力而为了，他们当时已经用尽了他们所有的理解力、知识和学问才做成那个样子。

转折的关键

立即开始自我赞同和自我接受

当人们带着问题来找我的时候，我并不关心问题是什么——病弱的身体、拮据的经济状况、糟糕的人际关系，或消失殆尽的创造力——我只专注于一件事情，即是否爱自己。

 

我发现当我们真正去爱，按照我们原本的样子来接受自己、赞同自己时，生活中的一切就恢复正常了，到处都会出现小小的奇迹——

我们的健康状况正在好转；

我们有了更多的钱；

我们的人际关系变得越来越和谐；

我们开始用一种创造性的方式表达自己

... ...

所有这些似乎在没有刻意去追求的时候就来到我们身边。

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爱自己并赞同自己，这会创建一个安全的空间。信任、价值和承认将在你的头脑里协同起来，在你的生活中创造更多友爱的人际关系，引来更好的工作、更好的居住环境，甚至连你的体重也会恢复正常。爱惜自己和自己身体的人从不虐待自己，也从不虐待别人。

 

现在立即开始自我赞同和自我接受，

这是使我们的生活发生积极改变的关键所在。

 

爱自己，对我来说，是从“不再因为任何事情而责怪自己”开始的。批评、责备会锁住我们，使我们无法发生改变，而理解自己并善待自己，却会帮助我们改变以往的负面反应模式。

记住，你已经责备自己很多年了，这毫无用处。

试着赞赏你自己，看看会发生什么。