The most powerful ability in the world: see yourself through others!

 The best way is to treat everyone you meet as your own mirror.

Look back

One of the greatest ability in this world is to see oneself clearly through others.

People are self-righteous, no one does not believe in their own eyes, no one does not believe in their own feelings and judgments, but what our eyes see is often only a phenomenon at a certain moment or a certain period of time, and people regard such phenomena as The fact is that this is the root of constant disputes, right and wrong, and all kinds of sin karma between people, and the root of all kinds of suffering.

Mirror

All your interpersonal relationships are a mirror through which you can know who you really are.

In the process of discovering each other, you unconsciously are also discovering yourself.

To understand the feelings and thoughts of others, you will also understand yourself better, and you will become the mirror of each other.

If you feel that your partner has lost care for you, it may be because you also lack care for him.

As a marriage expert said: "If our marriage becomes boring, it may be because I feel boring, or worse, I am boring."

In fact, the people who disgust you are helping you, helping you understand yourself, and letting you discover your dark side.

This is why the closer we are to a person, the easier it is to disgust, because he allows you to see who you really are.

The place that others hate you most is usually the place that you can't stand yourself the most.

Cast

What kind of person you are, you will think what others are like.

A person who is not loyal to others will also doubt the loyalty of others to himself; a person who is dishonest and dishonest will want to sway any behavior of others; a person who has a hidden traitor in his heart will think that the outside is all Bad person; a kind person thinks that everyone outside has a friendly side.

If you lose your temper a lot, you are likely to think that others often make you angry, and everything may become a reason for your anger.

It's not that everything is wrong, but you will project, you will project what is hidden within yourself onto others.

You will condemn everyone and everything, because you have too much anger, so even small things can ignite anger.

Similarly, what others say to you also reflects who they are and their inner world.

When your heart is going to be good, you will stop criticizing others and reacting to others' criticism. If you throw a stone at a tree full of apples, only apples will fall, no matter who throws it.

A truly good person, no matter how you treat him, he will only show peace and kindness, because he is that kind of person.

Show up

Whatever you are inside, you will be attracted to what kind of people; what you reject externally will reject everything internally.

Generally speaking, those who we get along well reflect our inner selves that we like and accept; and those who we don’t like reflect our unpleasant and unacceptable inner selves.

To teach both sides to live in harmony, it is better to teach them to make their hearts harmonious, so that both sides will be in harmony; to teach them how to increase mutual affection, it is better to teach them to increase self-growth, so that their relationship will naturally grow.

Change

To improve the relationship, you need to go deep inside yourself. Unless your inner problems are resolved, not only will you not be able to improve the relationship, but you will also create more problems.

A person with a desire for control cannot let go of the thought of controlling others and liberate himself unless the inner emptiness is filled; a person full of resentment cannot stop resentment unless the root of the resentment in the past is resolved; a love and jealousy Unless you can find confidence inside, you can’t stop being jealous.

Everyone's external words and deeds are manifestations of internal thoughts.

If you cannot trust yourself, it is difficult to trust others; if you cannot respect yourself, it is difficult to respect others; if you cannot be sure of yourself, it is difficult to be sure of others; if you cannot illuminate yourself, it is impossible to illuminate others.

Relationship

Your relationship with everyone reflects your relationship with yourself.

If you continue to conflict with yourself, then you will continue to conflict with others; if you struggle with your own inner emotions, then you will also struggle with others emotionally.

Because the problems we encounter in relationships are our internal problems. Therefore, not only should you review your relationship with others, but also reflect on your relationship with yourself.

Here are some questions you can examine for yourself: When I observe what you reflect on me, I feel... (Feelings such as anger, fear, loss of control, confusion, etc.)

Which of my self do you reflect? The "external" problems that plague us are precisely the parts that "internal" cannot integrate.

If you want to improve everything on the outside, you must start by changing the inside.

growing up

If you reject something, it is the subject you must study; if you appreciate something, it can be transformed into love.

Whether it is your boss, colleagues, subordinates, friends, classmates, or your parents, spouse, children, brothers, sisters, the personality, thoughts and behaviors that these people don’t like are often the parts you need to learn .

They will reveal your shadow, repeating the words and deeds you don't like to let you learn.

When someone points out your mistake, you get angry with that person, but is it his fault? No, he just helps you take out the "mouldy shadow" to bask in the sun.

Therefore, when others accuse you in the future, don't attack or fight back as before. You have to start asking yourself, because what they said is likely to be true.

If it's not true, why should you be so "serious", right?

Fate

People often say that godsend marriage, what is good marriage?

The people closest to you are the people who have the deepest "marriage" with you. There is a reason why they are arranged by your side.

Therefore, don't say you don't like it or try to avoid them, because they are all "a good destiny given by God". You should make good use of this opportunity to transform yourself.