Real security comes from being who you are

 People desire happiness very much. An important factor of happiness is to have a sense of security

Many people think that the sense of security is brought about by the outside world, so they desperately seek for it. For example, they feel safe when they have money, so they chase money; they feel safe when they have a status, so they chase status.

In fact, the true sense of security comes from being a true self, saying what you want to say, doing what you want to do, and creating a safe atmosphere for yourself.

No need to cover up, no need for outside affirmation, no need for outside approval, no need to please.

When you find your place, others will naturally locate the relationship with you

You don’t have to guess at others, it’s hard to guess. If you understand yourself, you will naturally see others.

People who pursue and accept the truth will not fail, because sooner or later you will find out where it is.

Failure is the result of pursuing illusion

For example, pursuing dreams that cannot be realized; falling in love with someone who does not love you; pursuing eternity in the short term; pursuing stability and security in turbulence and danger. If the result is not satisfactory, it is mostly because you have deviated from the truth.

When there is a conflict with others, be able to express your opinions directly and check face to face.

Don't let doubt and guessing become obstacles between each other.

Over time, everyone who gets along with you will naturally find a way to get along with you.

As long as you always believe: no matter who you are, you like to get along with real and sincere people.

Truth is a virtue. Many people also regard truth as a noble quality of life.

Honesty without kindness is a kind of coldness;

Honesty without caring is self-righteous;

If you can’t benefit others and yourself, the so-called truth is often just a way to vent your inner dissatisfaction by deceiving yourself.

People always want to give their behavior a tall package. Next time you want to be true, ask yourself, is there anything you want to vent?

In life, some people often fail to relax completely when getting along with others and making friends, and they dare not release their true self, which will give people a sense of distance.

There is also tension, anxiety, and worry inside. what can we do about it?

In fact, you need to know:

First, the tension in getting along with people is the result of past experiences.

It’s like being bitten by a snake for ten years and being afraid of ropes, because we have been hurt in our relationships with others in the past, and we will exaggerate this tension in our lives now.

It is generally understood that to release your true self is to truly express your feelings in front of the crowd.

You can try to find three people to practice, to truly express yourself, in the process of doing it, you will become more and more relaxed.

Second, one person is willing to be friends with another person because it is safe, comfortable, and happy to be with you. This has to do with our very real and sincere state.

The third is to make people feel happy. There are actually two aspects to happiness, one is to be an interesting person; the other is actually very important and most people will ignore, is to be a listener in getting along.

Everyone needs an audience, and it is very, very happy to be heard. So you are not necessarily interesting, but you have to learn to listen.

Fourth, the standard of being a person is first of all not to intentionally hurt others, and on this basis to do a good job and become a person who benefits others and self.

There seem to be many differences among busy people in the world, but in fact, they are all busy with happiness. The security and happiness you want is completely self-sufficient.

The journey of life, people come and go, grow yourself, and be true to yourself. What should be left will not leave, and it is difficult to stay what should be left. As long as you face it truthfully and honestly, you will have no complaints about yourself. No regrets.