Poor sleep is all related to internal confrontation

 01 Narrower perspective

The darker the world and others

Buffett bought the stock of an American railroad company a few years ago, and it seems that it is going to skyrocket again. Buffett's stock truly reflects his vision.

Then why can others not see the value of a railway company, but Buffett can see it?

Your insight comes from your perspective and vision. A person with a narrow perspective can easily see the darkness of others; a person with a wide perspective can easily see the ubiquitous opportunities in the world, and can even use them.

02 Others don't understand you

Actually very ordinary

The little knowledge is not as good as the great knowledge, and the great knowledge can see what the little knowledge cannot. We can all see other people’s misunderstandings about ourselves-leaders don’t know how capable they are, customers don’t know how much hard work we have done for him, employees don’t understand the hard work of leaders as bosses during the day and sleeping on the floor at night... these They are all common little knowledge. If you can look a little wider, you will become less irritable.

If you can understand that it is so common that you don’t understand others, you can have deep sympathy for others who don’t understand you. This kind of sympathy is only sympathy, not hatred. This is the basis of the wisdom of "people do not know but are not stunned." "Little knowledge is not as good as great knowledge", this is what I said.

03 See the problem in different dimensions

Is the best way to calm down

There is something called a shadowless lamp, which is actually very simple, just a circle of lights. When the light comes from the upper left corner, it will naturally produce a shadow in the lower right corner. But if there is a light in the upper right corner, the shadow does not exist. If it were a circle of lights, naturally there would be no shadows.

When you criticize anything, do you have a secret self-awareness: Is it possible that I am caught in a prejudice caused by a narrow consciousness radar? Did I fall into the perspective of Xiaozhi?

Each of us should consciously tell ourselves that it is very likely that you are still in a narrow field of vision for people with a wider consciousness radar.

The pride, anger, doubt, dissatisfaction, jealousy and other emotions that arise from this intolerance are all just because of "ignorance." So bad emotions come not only from bad habits, but also from unopened wisdom.

What is wisdom? Wisdom is great knowledge. From time to time, you can change a lot of angles at any time and anywhere, and see a thing in different dimensions.

04 Our unhappiness

Is built by the inner mental model

For example, if we don't know when it will start, we have the habit of fear. Looking at it now, it may be because when our parents were educating us since we were young, they didn’t know what other effective and quick way besides fear was; so they used tigers and police officers to intimidate us. Give in, eat quickly, sleep quickly, and do homework quickly.

When we stopped being afraid of the tiger and the police, we left the habit of fear. It was so invisible that we didn't find it, but it limited our freedom. 

There are still some people, because their parents told them that you were not good enough since childhood, so many people feel that they are not worthy of all this.

There are also some parents who tell their children when they are very young that our family is not easy, you have to cherish your studies, and it is difficult for parents to make money. Although this kind of education can help children build up the concept of cherishing wealth, it also makes the child not believe that he can own wealth in his entire life.

This is how we become people who are habitually fearful, habitually feel that they are not good enough, habitually feel that they are unworthy, and habitually feel that they are not worth having.

We have to find that everyone has formed the obstacles of the above mental models in various past times and various opportunities. It was all this that imprisoned us and made us an uncomfortable person.

We don’t need to complain about our parents, because our parents also come here. What we need is to come out.

05 To be aware is to move towards freedom

We don't need to complain, we just need to be aware. When we perceive that all unhappiness, uncomfortableness, and unhappiness are simply because there is an invisible cover imprisoning us, we begin to bravely march towards freedom.

Before falling asleep, maybe we can do a simple exercise together and think about the people who upset you the most. Because this person who upsets you the most will really help you discover the cause of your upset.

The reason that makes yourself unhappy is your inner fear, inner separation, inner worry.

When you understand that it is just a conceptual hypothesis, perhaps you can let go of the confrontation with it. You don't need to tell anyone, but you must know for yourself what you are fighting against.

This kind of habitual confrontation makes us not know how to love or even how to love ourselves. It makes us hate and cannot accept everything. In the process of communicating with others, we become consciously or unconsciously. A competitor. 

It makes us unhappy, and finally makes us have many regrets...

Therefore, Confucius said that the benevolent is invincible, and what he meant is that a person who is truly close to a state of freedom, has extensive compassion and wisdom, will not easily establish his own enemy. In the process of interacting with sentient beings, he will find ways to get along with them in harmony.

All this comes from our insight and understanding of the truth.

Everything that you don't sleep well is related to a confrontation within you. Find it, discover it, unlock it, and accept it. When you sleep well, you will find yourself like a child the next morning, full of vitality.